Parental Roots: a new method to understand parenthood dissociation

Parental Roots: a new method to understand parenthood dissociation

Root 1 We understand our lack of control over our ability to protect our children from pain and become willing to surrender to our understanding our flight from reality into our dissociations and not our unstructured insane controls.

Root 2 We find hope in the belief that recovery is possible through understanding and an acceptance of the fact that we are never really sane as long as we are dissociated with frozen emotions.

Root 3 We reach out for help and acknowledge that we have the tools to recover.

Root 4 understanding the historical implications of ourself as a parent.

Root 5 Learn to share our parenting dissociation issues with others without self-recrimination.

Root 6 Become ready to change by giving up the demand to conform to historical broken dissociation ideals.

Root 7 Make conscious changes in our parenting by identifying and changing specific dissociation strategies for healthy parenting.

Root 8 Take responsibility for the effect our parenting has had on our children and learn the ten stages.

Root 9 Make an understanding to our children through healthy parenting without over-compensating for our dissociation behaviour. 

Root 10 understand being honest with ourself and our children and create acceptance in our family for dissociation.

Root 11 Learn to accept our delimits in life and find our true path while allowing our children theirs.

Root 12 Reach out to other parents in the spirit of understanding and community.




The world of parents and caregivers struggling with dissociations that lead to addiction — their own, their parents and caregivers, their spouses — and gives us clear guidelines about how to speak to, and work with, these families. It will also help us to address the personal issues that arise for us as we begin this process of family recovery.


 First it is written to help children of addicts of dissociation, their caregivers and the addicts themselves on a personal level. The term caregiver has many meanings. Sometimes the caregiver is a biological parent, sometimes it is a member of the extended family, or a foster parent, and sometimes a professional child care worker, or social worker.

What caregivers have in common is that they all have accepted the responsibility to nurture and safeguard the well being of a child. But when it comes to addiction of dissociation, in most cases, caregivers have little to no idea of the needs and issues facing children that have been impacted by dissociation and even less how to help parents/caregivers who are dissociated. All too often caregivers are themselves, untreated adult children of dissociated families, or families with abuse or neglect issues. Their personal struggle mirrors the concern and struggle now found in the sick professional community. New pathways are needed in the treatment of dissociation, and new understanding on both a professional and personal level are required, for there to be success in the treatment of parents/caregivers and the children of dissociation found within the Child Welfare, Juvenile Justice and Substance Abuse Fields.

Parental Roots is written to provide greater professional understanding for those who work with addicted parents/caregivers and their children — child welfare, juvenile justice, and alcohol and drug abuse professionals, who now need to closely collaborate, in some cases, for the first time with the parental roots system of recovery. Doing this will require a more thorough understanding of the terms utilised dissociation, the ability to identify and access services across systems, and the development of new services for treatment and training. The insider knowledge on families Who Get High has exercised us to use with our course members as we begin the process of motivating and engaging high-risk families/caregivers who are also challenged by the addiction of parental dissociation to unobtainable anarchic solutions.